Let me tell you a story.
Recently a client told me that she was having a pretty rough go of things, not feeling the love. Various forms of bad luck seemed to be falling on her and her family and she was bearing all the blame. After one particularly hard day, she sat with her husband and cried. She started to say how she was worthless, how she hated herself, and that she had no purpose in this world.
Tears in his eyes, her husband calmly took her hand in his and said “Please stop talking trash about the woman I love. If only you could see her as I see her.”
Taken back by the words of her love, my client wiped away her tears, hugged her husband tight, and thanked him for pointing out that she was loved.
You see, words are powerful, powerful things. My client was caught up in a loop of self loathing and needed to be reminded that she was worthy of love…just as we all are worthy. In this instance, my client was lucky enough to have a loved one point something out to her that was obvious to him. And now she is learning to notice it for herself. She is currently practicing saying three little, yet powerful words to herself when she looks in the mirror: I love you.
As a coach, I deal with all kinds of issues and one that I see time and again is a need for loving oneself. It’s not something that comes easily for most people, yet it’s critical in being a happy and healthy human being. The more we love ourselves, the healthier we are emotionally, spiritually, and even physically.
With Valentine’s Day just a few days away, I of course want you to rejoice in the love you have in your life, but what I want you to focus on even more than that is the love you have for YOU. Let go of critical voices and embrace God’s divine love. It might not be easy at first, but the more you practice telling yourself how you love the person in the mirror, the easier it will become.
Self-love is an amazing step in the creation of an even more amazing life. It all starts with you. Through that love you’ll uncover your vision, and your purpose will unfold. Trust me, I’ve seen it happen time and time again.